How Important is Sex?

[Phantom Renegad]

Interesting question that I couldn't find in my search: How important is sex to you? Is it something that you can engage in casually or is it something deathly serious to you?

I suppose this would be related to how long you can go without it as well. If you can live longer without water than you can without sex that would make it rank rather hi with you. Is it important enough to lie for, even if it's a little white lie?

[Pervysage]

I can live with out it but im not going to be the nicest person on earth

[daeryn]

This is going to depend a lot on the individual person (how strong their own sex drive is) and probably their early experiences with it and how they grew up thinking about it. There is a lot of feelings mixed in with how people think about sex, which will also affect who they view as possible partners.

For myself, I like sex a lot - but I wouldn't enjoy just hiring a hooker or something for it, I need a connection with the girl in order to make it into something that's actually gratifying. Now, that connection can take many forms... but that's another subject.

As for how long you can live without it ... if you ever get the gut-feeling that you NEED sex, then there's your answer... but that will usually only happen after you've had it a lot, or have experiences that make you want it really badly. And lying - well, put it this way: Lying tends to lead to drama when the lies are found out. If youre the sort that enjoys bedding every girl you can find and dont care about longer term, then hey - say what you need to say to get her there, and live with the outcome later (if youre still around). If you actually care about keeping in touch, I'd suggest that lies are dangerous. Now, you CAN come out on your own and reveal the lies later, to keep the situation from being QUITE as bad... but that'll depend on the lies you had to use. Personally, I avoid the drama as much I can.

-Daeryn

[IIA]

considering the fact that I had sex last time over 2 years ago, I think I can live perfectly fine without it

[Pervysage]

considering the fact that I had sex last time over 2 years ago, I think I can live perfectly fine without it

Damn you ok? If I went two years without I Think I would bite the bullet and go find me a paper bag special.

[IIA]

I knew this would be a shocker XD

Of course I'm ok. I haven't died or anything so can go on. I'm not that dependant on sex

[happysam]

two years wow, my hat is off for you. but seriously my relationship just turn into a long distance relationship and it is tough :/. it is weird, i find myself slightly temped to get some any means possible , but then i visit here and "clear my mind" and i'm good for a while at least. but the times i do see her i make up for lost time.

[Jack_Peek]

I think sex is really... Well... Overrated?
Yeah of course its fun, but somehow it is just THAT and nothing else. Sex addicts are a riddle to me, considering the fact that it has been quite a while since my last time.

[Saint]

I think sex is quite important, especially in a relationship, I find if the sex isn't good, then generally the relationship isn't good... A lot of expression goes into sex.

[daeryn]

I think sex is quite important, especially in a relationship, I find if the sex isn't good, then generally the relationship isn't good... A lot of expression goes into sex.

Much like I said, sex is far more gratifying when there is a connection or relationship to build on. People build sex up in their minds, especially when theyre in the mood... it's an opportunity to either gain or lose a lot of credit in a relationship, depending on how you perform... which includes what you say and how you act as much as your skills in bed.

-Daeryn

[happysam]

it seems to me like an addiction you are always trying to chase and find that feeling when you first climaxed

[darkmagis]

hummm this question for me would only be exsplained by my past like daeryn said. for me my first open mouth kiss was in second grade... i was also beaten up a lot becuase i told people fighting was pointless. at age 12 was my first time... but the person it was with was a troubled girl with a past all her own... after that most of my friends have all been wemon.... i was always trying to be protective and still am that way...girls trusted me and some fell for me but i was always moving to new areas so relation ships never last long... so for me sex became somthing i only wanted to do with someone i truly cared about even if a random hot women came up to me naked i'd would just say hi and look the other way. for me its been 5 years sence i had sex and for reason to deepressing that i don't want to make people reading this feel down ^-^ but yes sex is an important part of a relation ship to me for i can really only feel anything at all when im with someone i love...and yes i do get shy around wemon i love...i have no idea why i can be cool around normal wemon sept when i fall for them myself lol well enough of my long ass story just felt like posting somthing more detail for this topic

[Overlord]

Im not gonna sit here and say that its not importang, but its not everything.

Sex is deathly serious to me, and i will only engage it when all of my criteria is met, and i have high standards so that may be a while lol.

Without a relationship it seems like its an empty thing, without the attachment or the feelings then its just a bodily function that feels good.

To me sex is more of a spiritual thing where two people meld their soulds into 1 so if that kind of affection isnt present in the first place then i want no part of it.

[The_Dude]

I have it often enough

[darkmagis]

hehe yes i agree with overlord a lot i wanted to stay a virgin but that didn't happen hehe i was to weak hearted to say no....let alone i froze up when she got naked in front of me so she had her way with me.

[Overlord]

hehe yes i agree with overlord a lot i wanted to stay a virgin but that didn't happen hehe i was to weak hearted to say no....let alone i froze up when she got naked in front of me so she had her way with me.

I was in that situation once, every once in a long while i would think about actually going with it, but most of the time its inspiring that i was able to resist such a gorgeosly hot body lol. In the end though it was a good thing i didnt do it, cuz we didnt make it then end but oh well.

[frontline]

Well I think sex isn't worth it. I mean I do try to get laid but that is just merely for bragging rights and the sake of competition, so if I get with a girl at a party I can make all of my friends jealous and bitter, lol. I much prefer wackin it though.

[Nolanoth]

I don’t like sex really. I bet I’d like making love to someone I actually love and know that person loves me back with al they represent (heart, body, soul) instead of just meh… sex… how I hate that word. To me it is simply pointless. I don’t want it. And if I another horny farm animal ever tries to drug/abuse/rape or seduce me gaian I won’t hesitate to defend myself!

[hornyman208]

i'd have to say a mix between deathly and casualy

[base]

lol sex is the most important thing in my life

[gvapo]

Sex is important but is not all in relationship, because love is on first place and than sex...
I say that because my ex girl was raped when she was a child, and i was without sex about 2 years..................
I just love her..............................sex comes later......................

[killakiar]

two years wow, my hat is off for you. but seriously my relationship just turn into a long distance relationship and it is tough :/. it is weird, i find myself slightly temped to get some any means possible , but then i visit here and "clear my mind" and i'm good for a while at least. but the times i do see her i make up for lost time.

same with my recently my gf moved for school and it is tough. and when i see her its great, until then i got lefty and righty.

[coolboy44]

Its not really important if you are in a relationship.
Its important if you wanna have some fun XD

[llcool]

Depends on your profession.

Monk? Not so much. Hooker? Very.

Everybody else? Yup

[michou]

we can't even deal with it :
without sex, life wouldn't exist

and if it would, it would be useless !

[llcool]

We'd probably get more shit done though.

Pffft. Fuck THAT

[udunknowme]

very much so.

i choose my girlfriends on their sexual appetite lol.

[Prinny]

Well Sex is important to an extent with me. Me and my GF decided to wait it out a little while before we actually commit to it and focus on building on the relationship more. I mean i'd rather have a very strong relationship that will last my whole life than physical pleasure that will last a couple hours. I look towards the long term.

And like many of my peers before me have said it's empty if you don't have feeling to go with it because when i'm actually engaged in a sexual way with my GF the feeling gets me going rather than the physical (though that's a hell of a bonus i'm not gonna lie lol). But it's just empty. Humans are emotional creatures and just looking for the physical pleasure of another human being without considering them before yourself is very very shallow in my opinion.